commentr/StutterSeptember 15, 2016

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Nice! I wonder if they have NSA meetings in Canada, where I live. Would love to meet others in real life. In my experience, I feel like confidence is the best tool to combat fear. All the things that you mentioned are great (reading out loud, in front of a mirror) but I would also make a concerted effort to do those things in front of someone you trust. Talking by yourself is nice, but it is too safe. You need to take the experiment out into the field. But sometimes I wouldn't feel that comfortable speaking to peers, so I would drive out to a quiet bookstore or quiet library where I wouldn't normally go to (I like to read anyway), and I'd ask for help finding a book or whatever, or hell just ask a librarian where the bathroom was. Since it's a quiet atmosphere, it's less intimidating, and for me, at least, it was always easier speaking when it was close to a quiet whisper. I remember even going to my old church even though I'm an atheist and just talking to the priests there in the confessional booth. It's a good way to get used to talking to strangers and getting some shit off your chest too, even if you don't believe (which I don't), it's still cathartic and therapeutic. Then one time I remember being so pissed off because I had bungled a college presentation so I just drove to the water and screamed at a lake where nobody was around. But that was more venting out my frustrations. My dad (who stutters) actually told me about this greek orator named Demosthenes that inspired me to go do [this](https://bradleymccoy.wordpress.com/2013/01/04/struggle-to-speak-how-demosthenes-became-the-greatest-orator-in-greece/) I also like to do volunteer work and you'll meet really, really nice, genuine people who are really understanding and are just altruistic in general, so that would be a good way to meet non-judgemental people, practice your speaking while doing something that will make you feel worthwhile, happy and accepted. But yeah, at the end of the day, you gotta give yourself moments of pure fluency to make yourself happy. Talking by yourself is good. For me, I never stuttered when I sang, so I'd spend a good while singing in my car or at home just to boost endorphins and relish in a moment of fluency and just to take pride in hearing my voice, which I was not used to at all. Also, since I was a movie fan, I'd follow reading movie scripts along with the actor to learn their various staccato rhythms of speaking. Just weird, creative stuff like that. Attacking the problem from all different non-traditional kinds of angles. But mostly, I just talked among my trusted circle of friends and yeah, just start with baby steps. Little things like saying "Hi" to your neighbor, or mailman, strangers on the street. And of course, if you haven't already, try a speech therapist. But I would definitely dive right into some good, long youtube guided meditation videos, specifically the ones that address anxiety and positivity. Your optimistic state of mind is everything.

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