commentr/StutterSeptember 27, 2017

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Congrats! So happy you've excelled, it's tough as it is. What specialties are you looking at? Radiology for example has less patient interaction while oncology you often deal with family members just as much as patients. While I don't stutter, my ex is a resident who does. :) He's also one of the most determined, empathetic people I've ever met. I asked him about this once and he said that, although his fluency bothered him often, especially during presentations to fellow doctors, patients didn't mind half as much. Once in a while they get mean tho, but not most of the time. Patients can be more understanding then you think, and I might even say that if they see you achieve so much, care for them/treat them well with good outcomes, you having a stutter will humanize you to them, and be inspirational. Lol my ex hated when ppl thought that...but idk I've been sick enough to see several doctors and they sometimes seem so cold and forbidding. He still hates talking on the phone, but there is a big difference when talking casually and when he feels nervous. I guess he said once you get more comfortable with having patients, after a while you can script lots of things. As for unplanned stuff, staying calm and persevering through the blocks...and if people ask, casually mentioning the stutter and changing the topic. Other residents might get snarky but ignore them. They're usually jealous if you're doing well. Other residents will understand and you will make work friends :) Also, for presentations/interviews/phone interviews he would practice with me a lot and said that really helped. The biggest thing though that I did notice was when he would have blocks/stutter, he just felt terrible. No matter how many times I told him that it's ok, good people don't treat you differently, the aholes only do. It's just your field does sometimes have competitive aholes. So just truly becoming confident in yourself and your abilities as a physician. Regularly telling yourself that you understand this, that you were made to do this work, not just intellectually but in every way you are just as good as any other physician. My ex didn't like first year but now he loves residency even tho he's dead tired most of the time. If you have some more questions for him, I can ask :) Lastly don't regret it!!! Like I heard him tell me once "you have to fight your disability and not let it take away your dreams." And you are worthy or acceptance, respect, etc. give that to yourself :)

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School & WorkEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Employment & CareerPublic SpeakingFrustration & AngerAcceptance & PrideHope & Motivation

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