How do I escape the "it's not fair!" emotional paradigm?

How do I escape the "it's not fair!" emotional paradigm? Having any kind of a disability is probably drawing the social short straw. We all know this deep down. This however eats at my emotional well being because their are people who have never dealt with my special hardships. The only redeeming quality of having a stutter is that it forces you to harden and accept that life ain't fair and you'll have to roll with the punches that life throws at you even if you believe to your core you drew the short straw. Stuttering is a combo of nurture and nature so only focusing on nurture should help with this.a