commentr/StutterApril 4, 2022

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Do it. You're concerned with the hell of getting through it? The worse hell is the regret you're going to suffer from not doing it. Letting your stutter stop you from doing things piles up. And you live with that day after day. Long after everyone who hears you speak will have forgotten the speech. Maybe start with an icebreaker. "Hi, my name is Mark and I stutter." I've said it many times in this sub: "Don't let your stutter choose the path your life is going to follow." Every time I made a decision because of my stutter, it was another cut to my self image. Prepare for your speech. Practice it. Practice it in whatever room you're going to make the speech. Own the space. So many people feel like they are locked behind a podium when they speak. Use as much of the room as you like. Moving around keeps your audience's attention. A quick anecdote: I once closed another student's laptop, as they were gaming while I was presenting. I walked up the aisle and closed the lid without missing a beat. Trust me, you have everyone's attention at that point. *You're not going to get a lot of laughs or questionable looks.* Honestly, I think as people who stutter, we expect the worst from people. I've found that *most* of the time, people are better than that. I hesitate to even add this last part, as it's probably unnecessary. *IF* someone laughs at you, call them out. You don't have to be mean, either. Own the laugh. e.g. "I guess this guy has never met someone who stutters before?" "There's one in every crowd." Whatever.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Feared Words & NamesPreparation & RehearsalMindset shiftSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception