My mother was always "fixing" me one way or another, it wasn't until I noticed the blocking get worse when I was around her that I figured out my relationship with her was actually the cause. It's a decade later and she hasn't changed, when I married my wife, she told me "to be happy I found someone who tolerates my numerous deficiencies" during the mother-son dance. I no longer let her awful view of me affect my view of myself, and politely tell her to shove it whenever she says something out of line.