Internet hug! When I have panic attacks, I stop being able to talk entirely, so I really empathized with that. My parents obviously aren't the greatest, but they always were encouraging independence--I sometimes wonder if they regret that--so I was able to do a lot behind their back. My "headache team" these days is a GP, a neurologist, a psychiatrist, and a therapist (who happens to know about headaches, but we generally don't discuss the headaches, but the issues triggering them). The neurologist referred me to the neuropsychologist due to my head injury complication, which you don't have. Heads-up if you eventually get prescribed a muscle relaxant: they're amazing as hell, but they knock me out cold. (They are supposed to, well, relax muscles.) The year that I was on them, I could force myself to stay awake for about three hours before I'd literally collapse on the first comfortable surface I saw, which is why I stopped taking them. (Next month, when I see my neurologist, I'm going to ask to get back on them though, since I realized my tension headaches can carry on multiple days. The muscle relaxant should be able to prevent that from happening, and I can take it at night.) I wish my parents had been more helpful, I really do. But I've found other people to support me, and it sounds like you have, too.