My experience regarding my improvement in the last week due to a potent self realization

My experience regarding my improvement in the last week due to a potent self realization Disclaimer: As with all stutter reduction techniques, this might not help everyone but I hope it does I am a 27 year old guy. I have had moderate stutter my entire life that can sometimes go to too high and sometimes decrease to nearly non existent depending on the stress of the current situation and my current mental stress related situation and also other factors like drunkenness,etc. I have taken speech therapy intermittently for the past year and have received benefits and improvements from that. I plan on writing about the techniques and benefits from them in a subsequent post. This post is about a self realization about life in general I have had since the past week that has really destressed me, calmed me the fuck down and really helped me all around especially in my stammer. I have been a perfectionist all my life. I dont remember the name of the book, and I tried to find it out but couldnt, its very close to "to all stutters", which had been written by speech therapists who are themselves stutters which I highly recommend everyone reading, it had a chapter that said that most of the stutterers are perfectionist and it was really applicable to me. I could not figure out though how to make this realization beneficial to me and the last week it struck me. Life isnt about accomplishments. It isnt about the qualities you have, intelligence, money, selflessness, looks,etc. These are just the features of a vector that describes a person. What truly defines a person is his inner strength. A person chooses to be strong. Any action, personality feature, everything else is non relevant. Also inner strength is a choice. I just choose to be strong. Period. This choice does not necessarily help me in getting better work done, making more money,etc. What it helps me is in the profound realization that what happens to me, around me, my performance isnt what defines me. I am strong. I am calm. Just choosing to be strong and knowing everything else is "non relevant" has really calmed me down. Everything around me goes slower. This has given me much more confidence, destressed me, made me feel that I can accomplish everything but that it doesnt matter. My choice of being inner strong has really helped my stutter and I hope it does help you too. I hope it changes your perspective on life and gives you peace. Sorry for the bad english. Its my second language. If anyone else can express this idea better which might help others even more, I would be truly grateful. If it does help anyone else do let me know