Why are your 'what ifs' always focused on the negative? What if's can also be positive. What cognitive bias drive you to focus on the negative? There is very vocal group of poor-me defeatists who litter this sub with their doom and gloom and lack of ownership of how they deal with their issues. My push is to counter these individuals. And it is working as my upvote counts for my posts are overwhelmingly in agreement to my stance. Balance includes taking a stand against the few who drag down the community.