commentr/StutterJanuary 5, 2020

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There's a million things we could say but am sure you feel like you've heard them all before. We know that feeling too. I'm 37 and have navigated through life with a stutter which has always been there. One thing you said stood out to me, and it's where I'll offer my perspective in hope it helps. *" i feel like everyone thinks i’m a weirdo "* \- **That feeling**. It brings up something that's more than empathy, it's impossible to think about it without feeling it, literally. But what you really mean when you say that is that you believe they should think you're a weirdo. It's how we see ourselves. It feels like they all have a negative opinion about you - Here's the truth. **They don't, and we're wrong to think it.** Most people will give you the time and space you need to feel comfortable in your environment. I worked from your age, for years at retail jobs and the trick is getting comfortable with the environment, with the people. With time, and it does take time, you build fluency through good habits in positive environments. Never apologise for it but do own it. "Hi I'm Donal, I have a speech impediment so if it comes up just bear with me." - I used that line on low days and really low days and it got me through. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and knowing they knew helped me drop my fear of that moment when a stranger realises I have a stutter which always made the stutter feel impossible to get hold of. I know there are people who don't like being open about it, but at your age, working retail, it helped me see the good in people. Or to quote someone wiser than myself, Tyrion Lannister no less... make it armour, and wear it like armour and it can never be used to hurt you. Chin up, the storm passes.

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Community & SupportCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception