commentr/StutterJanuary 23, 2015

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I rarely ever have people make a comment when I stutter when giving my name. A couple of times I can remember someone asked me if I forgot my name, and I just kept going till I got the word out. I felt it was incredibly rude. Nobody forgets their name, and unless you live under a rock you ought to know what a stutter is and that its rude to insult someone like that. But my experience has been, most people just give a bit of a look. Not a nasty look, just sort of like, eyebrows raised, eyes opened wider, relatively polite...but yet waiting to see if I'll be able to get my words out, so you know they feel slight discomfort. Funny, someone asks me my name, I usually just say "Nathan" but I guess I speak softly and more often than not they say "Pardon?" and then I always repeat by saying "My name is Nathan" because if I just say "Nathan" again, I will surely stutter worse. That's the nature of my stuttering. If I know what I need to say, I'm way more likely to stutter. I have to let my words flow right as I'm thinking. Not to change the topic within a thread, but I've often been accused of either speaking too softly or too loudly. People are either saying "What was that?" or "Hey use your inside voice". I don't enjoy raising my voice so I guess I'm more on the low volume side now. My feeling is, half the people who ask you to "keep it down" just don't want to hear what you have to say anyway. Its not like I shout.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries