I think I hit a brick wall during a company social (may possibly cost me an invite back) I think my stutter is caused by the environment I'm in and the type of person I'm talking to. Anyone else has this and how to improve?
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I think I hit a brick wall during a company social (may possibly cost me an invite back) I think my stutter is caused by the environment I'm in and the type of person I'm talking to. Anyone else has this and how to improve? Hi everyone! This is my first post here but want to thank you for reading this and I apologize for the length but the incident that occurred a few days ago just made me feel awful. I would describe myself as a mild stutterer. I am 19 and started noticing a stutter around 12 or 13. If I had to estimate how many times I stutter in a day, it could range from 5-15 instances per day. My stutter is usually, a lack of words and an empty thought for 2-3 seconds, as I contract my diaphragm and my abs as I inhale more and more as I try to say the word. There are even times where I know a stutter (or lull) is coming when the contraction of my abs and the straining of my throat muscles occurs. Also sometimes during this 2-3 second lull, I may get stuck on the word a couple of times. So I had this company invite-only networking social for this company a few days ago. The one-on-one interviews went well as they were in an intimate and close setting such as a small office (sitting directly across me) and for other at a coffee shop. I did well and did not stutter during those as I find it easier to talk to in small settings. I've had interviews before where the interviewer is across a long table and I found it harder to talk and I had more of the 2-3 stutter lulls as I am fumbling my words. Fast forward to the company social that day and it was in a big room and was fairly loud and sometimes hard to hear. There were probably 20 workers and about 30 candidates. But there was just one particular instance, which I just totally flubbed. A worker asked me what I liked to do for fun, and I was trying to say "I enjoy watching football", but I had trouble trying to start my sentence and I had to repeat "I enjoy" a couple of times, and then my diaphragm contracted and started to tense up but I was able to say it and explain what team I liked, etc. But it was the 3-4 second lull of me fucking up and feeling like a complete idiot, that makes wish I could fix it. This affected my total approach for the rest of the social. I was able to talk to others at the event and not stutter but I was in a hesitant mindset. I would have liked to have talked to more people but that earlier instance just screwed with me. I also had another 3-4 second lull with another recruiter but it wasn't as bad as the first one mentioned. I tend to notice that the environment affects me (ex. loud setting, intimate setting) and the type of person as well. I am never a judgmental person but some people do give an aura of being intense and possibly uptight and then I tend to freeze up. Has anyone else had this and how can I improve on this? And regarding the social event, I know it may not be a big deal to those here who have worse stuttering, but its during the pivotal moments that I seem to screw up. If I'm with a friend it is easier but I still may freeze up a little bit. But I'm trying to avoid it altogether. I have the grades, I have friends, and I can articulate but I want to improve on this because events like these are about talking to people. If I become hesitant because of my stutter then I will always be overlooked.