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I (m34) stuttered since I was about 7 years old, but I only got really conscious about it when I went to highschool, around the age of 12. High school always felt like different territory than primary school. Different town, different people. In primary school I would actually get bullied for it, and always ended up having verbal fights. Here are some ways I used to cover up the fact I had a stutter.... (which I'm not advocating you do, btw😂) The biggest one, was talking like a dumbass, like it was my normal way of speaking/vocab. I'll give an example of how I would talk. Knowing when I would stutter, I could easily move around words and add other words to make sure I didn't stutter. So for example, if I wanted to ask something like: "Hey, does anybody know where I can find a pen?" I'd always go: "Hey, does any-f\*cking-body know where I could f\*cking find a f\*cking pen?" I would just add *a lot* of cuss words in between. I cussed a lot during that time of my life. For many years after as well, actually. The fear of others knowing I stuttered was strong. Mentally I could for example add "f\*cking" in between words and know that would circumvent me stuttering on certain other words. Me being into rap at the time then also lead me to add more filler words in order to hide my stuttering. I'd often sound like, "Ey bruh, how you f\*ckin' doing? You f\*ckin' had a good f\*ckin' day?" It was the most ridiculous thing ever, but I was **so** insecure that I just did it that way. It was just a way of relocating my words' position so that I *could* pronounce them. Another trick I always used, was pretending to simply have forgotten a word. If I couldn't pronounce a word, I'd go like "whats it called again?" and pretend I actually forgot what all sorts of general stuff was called. People must have thought I was dumb as hell, lol. People would start to not take me serious eventually as well - because of all these weird ways of speaking. Noticing this sucked hard, because on the inside, I was a very different. The fear just made me do weird stuff to hide the stutter. Yet another trick was to just skip school. 😂 (I don't advise this) >I would say 80% of the time I can speak really really good, but that 20% messes me up cause they are so random. This is neat, though. Very neat. One thing you should really try to realize, is that everybody stutters to some degree. Literally, more people than you think. We stutterers just don't hear that, because we're so fixated on ourselves. But when you listen closely, you'll hear *A LOT* of people have some stuttering going on in varying degrees. This really helped me allow to stumble here and there without thinking too much of it. When I just allowed myself to stutter some more in front of people, with the knowing everybody stutters here and there, I was able to let go some of the fear. Definitely helped. >I just think my stuttering is a part of my life and it is what is, I accept it. This is the way. When I started accepting it a few years back, and allowing others to *hear* me stutter, I started making a lot of progress. Hope this helps somewhat!