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Been stuttering for as long as I can remember. I'm 35 now, and I don't stutter nearly as much and I think it's definitely to do with my higher confidence level versus being a nervous child/kid. I was enrolled in speech therapy when I was in elementary school and the therapy consisted of several sessions a week with a specialist. Stuff like learning how to slow down the calamity in my mind with steady breathing, starting sentences off slowly and quietly and gradually building up. Noticing what vowels or consonants gave me trouble and masking it with another syllable that I could say. For example, i had trouble saying apple, so I would quietly say "h'apple" to get the word out. Using my furious jazz hands also helped tremendously. Then the therapist thought it was a good idea to put me on the morning show where I would have to read things out loud like what was being served for lunch and other activities in front of a camera which was broadcast throughout all the closed circuit TVs in the school. Most traumatizing thing I've ever gone through. It happened almost thirty years ago and I can remember it vividly it was so traumatizing. I feel like confidence has everything to do with fluency. I don't stutter when I sing. I don't stutter when I'm drunk and I don't stutter when I'm talking to myself. In my college years, I just became confident because I had gone through my ugly duckling phase and was getting attention from lots of girls, so I just was naturally happier and self-actualized and all that. I still stuttered but I just didn't care. I was funny and charismatic and my circle of friends didn't care. Then I moved to a different city and the cycle started all over again. My thing is I stutter because I put so much emphasis in thinking other people are thinking "jesus christ, look at this guy! he can't say a goddamn thing! He must be so embarrassed!" and I know this is all due to my trauma when I was little because kids did in fact laugh and poke fun at me, but eventually kids grow up and aren't so cruel. I feel like you can really diminish your stutter, almost even destroying it altogether but you have to talk. You have to fuck up a million times and eventually you just get over the embarrassment through trial and error and after awhile, you just become numb to it and shame gets replaced with confidence. It sucks to have to go through such trying periods, but if you make it through and keep talking and keep trying, you will become significantly more fluent and also become a walking thesaurus. ha. Yoga and other related relaxation techniques helped me SO much. Finding and nurturing tranquility where it never existed before was a real eye-opener for me. Another thing was watching and learning from public speakers and actors. If you notice, they have a staccato rhythm (like The Rock lol) when they talk so I emulated that for years, bouncing my hands along with each beat. You may start looking like a politician when you speak but hey, whatever works right? Also, I stayed away from stimulates like coffee which would ignite my anxiety and exacerbate stuttering episodes.