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Hi Weary_Traffic3385, first of all I want to thank you for your hard work as a parent to ensure your kid has his psychological needs met, and also for trusting his instincts and preferences as an individual. I think this is the most important thing for any child or adult. Regarding the "social stuff", I would like to expand on this sentence: > "Ive noticed he's taken the option to record his presentation at home for the teacher. When I listen to his recordings, he sounds great!" In my opinion as a third-party on the internet, there are two possible issues here: the misconception that it *is* an option, and that the recordings are "great". An option implies that the alternative is feasible, and the feasibility of teenagers (and teenagers' teachers, bless them) being a comfortable and overall positive experience for *communication* as a PWS is next to null, at least in Europe. The people he meets and interacts with outside of home probably do not know if stuttering is genetic or neurological or psychological, if it's anxiety or fear, if it's random or persistent. If a blind person had to explain to anyone they meet what it's like to be blind, do you think they would leave their house? Might as well wait for the next reincarnation. In other words, they are not **educated** on a fundamental part of your child. This, of course, hinders the creation of almost all kinds of connections involving empathy. Maybe you can work together with your son and his therapist to mitigate this issue (practice conversations? drawings? a presentation? email? songs?). Also, him having trouble communicating might meaan that he is not able to advocate for himself in regards to stuttering. This, paired with being "the quiet kid" and the fact that he does some speech-related activities like presentations alone outside of his peers' view might lead to some unnecessary consequences. Of course, all of this is something to talk to a professional to, and I don't necessarily disagree with any IEP-related accomodations (as I am not familiar with them at all, to be honest). As for the feedback on the video presentation, while I realise you might not have meant fluency of speech per se, but more of his behavior (comfort, clarity, charisma, etc.) while talking, I would perhaps advise you to not associate the two concepts "great speech" and fluency in any way, shape, or form, at least in front of your child. There is enough of that in other conversations, movies, social media, etc. :) I don't think of stuttering as a stacked card against me (as an adult), but rather an opportunity to teach others about an important socialisation process (speech) and how it can differ from person to person while still allowing for a happy and fulfilling communication. Remember, this might be the reality *right now* for your kid (acknowledge this) but I can also tell you that the real world is full of amazing people and experiences. This subreddit can be pretty negative at times, but that's because real, happy people sometimes also need a place to vent :)