You can take this with a grain of salt since I'm still young and it's just my own experience. I'm homeschooled and I live on a farm and have a lot of unusual interests and hobbies and don't care at all about being cool or fitting in, really, I just don't want to be looked at like a freak or mentally challenged just because I can't speak normally. The important thing imo isn't necessarily to fit in, but not to be any more socially awkward or unpleasant than you have to be. Having unusual hobbies or interests or not fitting in is really not going to make anyone dislike you, but being awkward sure is. I feel like my stutter makes me awkward enough (aside from not being able to get my words out I turn red and sweat and make weird, embarrassing faces), so I try extremely hard to be socially aware, polite, and responsible. Being decent goes a long way. I'm not shy though I'm an introvert, but I can't be outgoing because of my stutter, and can't make friends easily; so I do at least try to have self respect and not suck up to people or be so self deprecating that no one else has respect for me. I definitely don't make friends with people I don't like or who I think look down on me. I'm just not interested in that. I know I don't come across as very confident because of my embarrassment at my speech, but I can at least not put myself in situations where I am treated inferior. Also, though it seriously sucks to see everyone else with a great social life enjoying themselves, my lack of it does give me a lot of time for hobbies, to really excel at my schoolwork, and to focus on the friendships I do have (fewer, but less superficial friendships). For me, I always feel this pressure to outperform in everything else to make up for my difficulty communicating. It's hard enough to be an outcast without making things worse by coming behind in any other area.