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Breaking out of asocial behavior Has anyone developed an asocial type of lifestyle? I have and I don't know I feel about it. My stammer was bad when I was a child and it had quite a negative effect on me. Being 23 now, my stammer isn't even bad anymore because of speech therapy and for the most part growing out of it. But I have a mild stutter and occasionally block and still have to monitor my speech. I guess I am a covert stutterer. Growing up being unable to speak without inhibition led me to being a socially avoidant person. I didn't want to talk to anybody because I didn't enjoy talking. I didn't like the fact that I stuttered and the physical act of talking felt awkward. Why would I do something that I don't like? So I chose to not talk much. Because of this I feel like I am missing out and will continue to miss out on life due to mild self-imposed isolation. Strangely enough, I grew up to be a fairly confident person. I graduated high school and college with good grades, have a good full time job, and participate in hobbies outside of work that involve other people (boxing) and I consider them my friends. I am socially capable but not social. I have little urge to talk about myself and it makes it difficult to connect with people because deep down I still don't want to talk. I had a girlfriend for 5 months and I kind of felt like I was faking the whole thing. We got along well enough but romantically we just weren't there because we couldn't really make connections with each other. I felt like I had nothing to say to her because I legitimately didn't want to say anything to her. Not because I didn't like her, but because I didn't really want to talk. So here I am continuing to live my life by going to work forty hours a week, going to boxing class four nights a week, going home to an empty apartment, and spending the weekend basically doing nothing except going to the gym, Netflix, video games, practicing programming, and occasionally go out to bars to try to not be asocial. I guess I am comfortable with the way I'm living but I don't know if I'm happy. I'm not said either I just feel neutral. I realize that life is kind of passing me by and at the same time I don't really want to be social. Maybe I just haven't the right girl to spend time with. Just a rant. Maybe I need a shrink.