First of all — you win the internet today! Just you seeking out this sub and asking such a respectful question, thank you, from all of us who do or have struggle to order daily. You are very considerate and kind. Every stutterer is going to feel a little different about this. I would suggesting asking him the same question you have asked us. If my favorite bartender or server asked me this, they would have my business or friendship for a very long time. My favorite bartender knows I stutter. We haven’t talked about it, but when I come in she asks me if I want the same appetizer I always get and whatever IPA is on draft.