Tips to improve stuttering according to the book Untethered soul (Journey Beyond Yourself - a mindfulness approach) by Singer

Tips to improve stuttering according to the book Untethered soul (Journey Beyond Yourself - a mindfulness approach) by Singer This book is about mindfulness, but doesn't discuss stuttering. Nonetheless, I will attempt to create a connection between the book and stuttering and provide tips to improve stuttering. **Tips to improve stuttering**: * **Book:** There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind (which is the center of your willful intentions) —you are the one who hears it. People want to discover which of these voices is their personality. The answer is simple: none of them. * **Tips:** The thoughts and emotions - when experiencing anxiety from stuttering - are not you, rather, you are always the person in your mind that is quiet. The one inside who is aware that you are always talking to yourself about yourself is always silent. Learn to distance and dissociate yourself from these thoughts and emotions. * **Book:** Most of what the inner voice says is meaningless. So, then why do we have these voices? If you study this carefully, you notice that the narration makes you feel more comfortable with the world around you. Like backseat driving, it makes you feel as though things are more in your control and you associate with it more. A tree in the world that has nothing to do with you; it is a tree that you saw, labeled, and judged. In your mind it becomes integrated with your other thoughts, such as those making up your value system and historical experiences. Your mind works like a protection mechanism making you feel more secure * **Tips:** Your thoughts and emotions from stuttering have far less impact on this world than you would like to think. Learn to be objective and watch all your thoughts, emotions and behaviors when stuttering. You will see that the vast majority of them have no relevance. They have no effect on anything or anybody, except you * **Book:** If you spend your time hoping that it doesn’t rain tomorrow, you are wasting your time. Your inner growth is completely dependent upon the realization that the only way to find peace and contentment is to stop thinking about yourself * **Tips**: Learn to not desire fluency and take a moment to examine the difference between your stutter experience of the outside world and your interactions with the mental world. When a stutter problem is disturbing you, don’t ask, “What should I do about it?” Ask, “What part of me is being disturbed by this?” If you ask, “What should I do about the anticipation of stuttering?” you’ve already fallen into believing that there really is a problem outside that must be dealt with. The first problem you have to deal with is your own reaction. You have to break the habit of thinking that the solution to your problems is to rearrange things outside of your mind and let go of the part of you that seems to have so many problems with reality. * **Book:** The problem is, the part that you watch never shuts up. If you could get rid of that part, even for a moment, the peace and serenity would be the nicest vacation you’ve ever had. Real spiritual growth is about getting out of this desire. * **Tips**: Learn to not get rid of stuttering anticipation. Just observe your desire to get rid of this and you don't have to do anything about it. * **Book**: The way to catch on to what your inner voice is really like is to personify it externally. Make believe that this psyche has a body of its own. You do this by taking the entire personality that you hear talking to you inside and imagine it as a person talking to you on the outside. Just imagine that another person is now saying everything that your inner voice would say. Now spend a day with that person. Imagine that you are listening to your family member in a conversation, but your inner voice suddenly talks: * *--- "What if it's my turn to speak? Should I apply avoidance-behavior?"* * Then your inner voice starts shouting: * *--- "But this conversation is very important" "I feel stutter pressure building" "What negative things will the listener think of me?"* * **Tips**: Will you dare to do this experiment? Don’t try to make the person stop talking. Just try to get to know what you live with inside by externalizing the voice that perceives and anticipates stuttering. Now, make that person your best friend. After all, how many friends do you spend all of your time with and pay absolute attention to every word they say? How would you feel if someone outside really started talking to you the way your inner voice does? How would you relate to a person who opened their mouth to say everything your mental voice says? * **Book:** When you go to a movie, you let yourself get drawn in. With a movie you use two senses: seeing and hearing. If your senses or the soundtrack don't synchronize with the scenes, you would remain very aware that you were sitting in a theater and that something was wrong. But because soundtracks and scenes normally synchronize perfectly, movies capture your awareness and you forget that you’re sitting in the theater. You forget your personal thoughts and emotions, and your consciousness gets pulled into the film. It’s actually quite phenomenal to contemplate the difference between the experience of sitting next to strangers in a cold, dark theater versus being so absorbed in the movie that you are totally unaware of your surroundings. * **Tips**: Be totally interested in: your conversation, your listener, what and how you want to tell your story, how this will make the listener happier and even if it doesn't, just visualize the best outcome that you want. Because this is your new positive mentality now. Learn to become so immersed in your new positive mentality, that you automatically stop thinking about the cold, dark theater or stop paying attention to stuttering, anticipatory fear and negatively evaluating the listener's responses. * **Book**: The most important thing in life is inner energy like enthusiasm. You can learn to keep your chakra of inner energy always open, by choosing to never close it. * **Tips**: Learn that there are no thoughts or emotions from stuttering that are worth closing over. I argue that the core problem with my stuttering is not the neurological wired thoughts and emotions, rather, it's my mentality that forces overreliance upon anticipating a stutter which comes from my desire to get rid of it (avoidance-behavior)