You're going to be stuck with your husband for the rest of your lives. Your stutter is going to come up.... eventually (and much much sooner if you plan on having kids, because they zero in on it by age 3). By avoiding it, you're giving up the opportunity to choose the time, place and circumstances of addressing it with him. I know it's difficult and your husband may need time to understand your plight, but I think in hindsight you'll find that talking to him about was a great move on your part. If you need something to "grease the skids" so that you're just not bringing it up out of no where, have a movie night and watch The King's Speech. ("That was a great movie, and oh... by the way...." ) PS. Have you ever considered that your shame and your stutter are related in any way? Stuttering is different for everyone, but I've found that whenever my stutter is exacerbated by any negative emotions I'm carrying around at the time. I don't think you can cure stuttering just by enhancing your self-esteem, but you're ashamed of your speech (and if sounds like you are), you may find that your speech is worse because of it.