Unfortunately, sometimes some people in our lives aren't safe in this way, if you are underage you need to speak to another trusted adult about how it makes you feel and hopefully they can advocate for you in some way. Many people do care enough to help. If you are an adult, the unfortunate thing is, some family members just will never change. The important thing is finding your own community of people who will accept you for who you are. Sometimes that means distancing from certain family members to different extents depending on how intense they are. Honestly the best advice in all cases where you cannot avoid being with people like this is using the method known as "grey rocking": The **grey rock method**, colloquially called **gray rocking**, is a communication pattern to deliberately act unresponsive and uninterested to encourage disengagement with difficult people.[^(\[1\])](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_rock_method#cite_note-1)[^(\[2\])](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_rock_method#cite_note-2) By adopting the dull qualities of a gray rock, the technique of gray rocking negates the emotional reaction people try to elicit.