i don't agree with the whole "there's a chance of \[...\], so I won't have children" take, but i can't agree with your reasoning either. the "so you would rather be dead?" part is so wrong. this is not about born vs dead. that's just bad philosophy of some extreme pro-life folks. first of all, my advice to every married couple yet to have children is, anyone who cannot or won't support disabled children should refrain from having children. same with anyone who'd be abusive parents. so, back to philosophy. when someone chooses not to have children, this should not be seen as someone extinguishing a potential soul. no, it's just like one less door open. what do I mean by this? last year, about 130,000,000 babies were born. 130,000,000 souls found open doors to enter human bodies successfully and enter this world. the number of doors do not matter. there's always next time. what matters is "what is behind that door? if I open that door and be born, what kind of parents am I getting? and what kind of society?" so let's not let obsessive grandparents go "i want grandchildren! why can't you get a proper job! why can't you lower your expectation and just marry the first \[...\] when will you make babies!" shut them up. taking good care of already born people is how we improve the overall quality of what's behind the doors. maybe that's the real pro-life.