I understasnd your perspective 100%, because I shared a similar perspective for many years.Look having a stutter sucks, we all know that. I would do anything to 'cure' it, but if we want to be real.... currently there is no proven cure. So... what can we do, to make life bearable? I am going to be honest, don't get upset. At the moment you have an inferiority complex... this goes beyond just your stutter. Yes the stutter probably caused it, but it seems like the stutter is not your only problem. Expecting someone to wait for you to finish speaking is not selfsih, thats a crazy perspective to have. You really have such low self worth, that you don't expect people to wait for you?In life, you are the most important person. Your entire reality only exsists from your perspective. To say that it is 'selfish' to expect people to treat your fairly is insane. Its not selfish at all, in life you have to demand respect, you have to have self worth, you have to love your self. Stop being so conscientious, put yourself first. It took me a long time to build up that self worth, I was bullied at school really bad. I know what it feels like, to feel inferior to everyone. You just have to push past that, its really really hard, but its the only way to grow as a person. Self confidence is so important in my opnion, in making stuttering less debilitating. When I say, 'don't let your stutter define you' I mean, don't let your stutter dictate your path in life. Whatever you set your mind to, you can do it. Thats not just blind optimizim that really true...The worst thing in life are "what if's", its better to try and fail, then fail to try. Yes having a stutter makes lots of things harder, but not impossible. So don't give up, don't be afraid to fail, and you will be suprised about whatyou can achieve.