Because I've been through this shit, had dark times and came out stronger on the other side because I actively worked on not only my stutter but other aspects of my life. That is also not at all what I'm saying, your right, we are not at fault. We were dealt these cards and we have to deal with it. Whether that be proactive choices to mitigate it much as possible or to drown in your sorrows and have a "why me" attitude is up to you. I'd rather be proactive about it. I'm just trying to help with how my own experiences have improved my quality of life from having a severe stutter as a teenager to a very mild stutter as an adult.