commentr/StutterNovember 2, 2019

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Ooh, you're good at this. You're pushing my buttons. So, I'll indulge your stupid bickering contest a while longer. I imagine you've been in a fair bit of these already. However, I'm going to sidestep most of the track you're used to, I hope. - First, let me be _very clear_: I _want_ you to seek out a professional to deal with your stutter _because I care about people who suffer_. It's no different with you, regardless of your ignorant and condescending stance towards me. - Second, don't you worry about my emotions. They're fine. What's worrying here is that you mean to paint everything critical I have to comment as somehow irrational. And of course, that's much easier, because then you can continue to be in the right. - Third, I don't give a fuck about porn. I don't even appreciate that porn is around. That's got nothing to do with the nofap bollox though. My considerations pertain to cultural and social issues, which is pretty far from the individualist and reductivist crap going on in the nofap groupings. Nothing I say is meant as a _defense_ of porn. Rather, everything is meant as an attack on _pseudoscience_. I'm sure you have read criticism of nofap and been able to dismiss it, because you're religiously invested in it. That's not really your fault - because that's how these trends and subcultures tend to work - but I'd argue that it is your _responsibility_ to know what far smarter people than you (criterially achieved through things like medical school and academia) have to say about it _if you mean to distribute it to others_. That's what I'm so angry about: You carelessly disposing garbage advice on a forum that most likely is visited by people who are desperate to try anything, just to diminish their suffering. It's so easy to fall prey to that sort of thing nowadays, because the barrier of entry for "internet knowledge" is basically non-existant. And that's why I feel compelled to speak out against people like you, who don't know what they're doing, and think what they're doing is true and proper, simply because they never were occasioned to move further and farther. - **Basically, _you're hurting strangers with your behavior_. I'm pretty fiercely protective of this community, because finding a way to live with stuttering is a topic that's near to me. I can't help in the ways that speech therapists do, because that's not my acquired profession, but I try to contribute in other ways. A lot of what benefits visitors in here is knowing they're not alone and knowing the things they think are so abnormal are in reality experienced by many other too. Also, there's a benefit in finding out different ways of thinking about themselves and others in relation to them. That's what I feel like I can contribute.** **_And then someone like you comes along and offers up bogus advice that sounds dead simple and is bound to attract some poor person trying to find a quick solution._ That pisses me off so much!** - So sure, call me emotional. I don't actually consider that an issue. It's obvious that I'd get "emotional" when faced with such reckless epistemological attitude. I think it's _right_ that we get emotional in such cases, because it's right to be angry when someone does something that's not right. You want links? I can give you links. But you won't need them, because you have your own links. You have your own group. What I'm telling you is that for this topic in particular - faps and whatnot - _you need to stay in your own group_. - See if you can push some more buttons of mine. Or don't. If you could just be quiet and renege, that'd be fucking sweet.   Let's just talk about stuttering instead, shall we? Or not at all. That's a good deal - you should take it.

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Causes & VariabilityTherapy & ProfessionalCommunity & Support

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Trauma & PsychologicalCure Claims / Alt-TreatsResearch & Resources