You're conflating two different things. Support groups exist precisely *because* of that small percentage of assholes we all encounter, not because everyone treats us badly. You say you 'never cared until people made you care' ... that's exactly my point! You're letting a handful of idiots define your entire reality while ignoring the vast majority who don't give it a second thought. That's a **choice** you're making. I'm not ignoring the hard parts. I'm rejecting the idea that we're helpless victims who should give up because some people are cruel. You can acknowledge difficulty without surrendering to it. If pointing out that most people aren't actually judging us as harshly as we judge ourselves is 'toxic positivity' to you, then I guess we fundamentally disagree on whether taking ownership of our responses to adversity is empowering or oppressive. Oh, and how is the 'self-pity coping strategy' working for you?