the thing that made me start to get it was realizing that though i thought i accepted my stutter (since duh, i know i stutter), I was really just acknowledging it rather than accepting it. I was simultaneously telling myself I know im a stutterer but still trying to be, striving to be a fluent. We cant both be fluenters and be stutterers. Those are two roles that are incompatible and if we only accept the fluency role, then when we do eventually stutter its going to cause grief/shame/fear/embarrassment/guilt/etc... Being content with it sounds like we're compromising. and I don't know if you can really accept yourself while compromising. If you're compromising to be disfluent sometimes, then have you really accepted being ok with being a person who stutters in the first place? But that's ok for now. It's not an easy journey or a short one. And even harder when you want to accept yourself but dont know how. Well I think you need to start looking and in the right direction. Sorry to be a broken record but there is no better place for this than the NSA conference. it really is the ultimate resource and started me off on my journey.