I know that feeling well. But the only thing that helps is to shift your perspective on control: you don’t fully control your speech, but you control your attitude towards it: A good quote from „The daily stoic“: „…Best of all, an honest understanding of what is within our control provides real clarity about the world: all we have is our own mind. Remember that today when you try to extend your reach outward— that it's much better and more appropriately directed inward.“