I think as a stutterer, we should give fluent ppl a chance. Many don't even understand the dynamics of it and don't regard it as a disability. So,,,, yeah I'm biased too, if someone still doesn't understand...then they simply lack empathy...and I move on🤷‍♂️ yeah, quite a tough spot. Best of luck to op. But definitely, always, tell her...imo. it helped me (sometimes 😅) when I told ppl I stutter, for me to deal with my stutter 🙏