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You are brave. You are enough. You do have control of your mindset. You are more powerful than you know. If you can find one meditation channel on YouTube to calm your body and give awareness to the ruthless mind that often tries to stifle us, it is worth your time & energy. Your stutter is a unique difference of who you are. And to those who harass you—really, you should just warn them it’s contagious 😂. At 14 you know Enough of others perceptions for it to cause you to avoid interactions. NOT everyone cares if you stutter and because it’s low incidence, it often feels like we are the ONLY ones who stutter. Your job is to be the one who cares, the one who cares deeply for YOU and your magnificent gifts and contributions and simply your presence that you gift to this world. Your worth is beyond measure and beyond others perception. YOU ARE HERE. That is enough. Period. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability—that in itself is a gift. We are all on a continuum and I suppose a stuttering continuum in this group . Self-acceptance is so much of the work of stuttering therapy. You don’t have to change your stutter. You have to be content to be you. There’s a movement to simply notice a difference jn communication style vs label stuttering a problem. You have more power than it appears in this moment. I def can relate to feeling stuck and without options. This is the mindset portion to start busting one small step at a time. As an SLP who stuttered thru childhood, and less frequently as an adult, I know you You certainly can make changes to your thoughts and awareness of your stutter. I’d recommend starting witn SLP Stephen on Instagram and also check out his webpage. There’s lots of free info there to get started. I’m Just coming back to thinking I should work in this area …and I’m learning thru others experiences: I’ve long practiced avoidance and got really good at it. However, avoidance and seemingly fluent speech (covert, covered up stuttering that I still worried about) didn’t actually heal me. My work now at nearly 50 is still self-acceptance. I’m coming for it. 14 can be rough and intense and yet, you have the blessing of youth and resilience and so much life to create. Sending you healing vibes, Self-compassion, bits of hope, the ability to move your thoughts from one illusion to create More of what you want. Start with letting ppl know you stutter—takes the edge off. Practice a stutter with ease and less resistance in your own space —stutter your way, your style, your terms, Be aware of mental re-plays after your stuttering (SLp Stephen Just highlighted some new research on that area). Move into new ways of thinking when you start to get the same stuck thinking tracks in the brain. None of this is your fault. None of this is beyond your control. Stutterers may feel isolated but we are many throughout the world and we too have a message to bring. Choose what that message is. Choose who you want to be. Create that version and your spark starts the next spark. That light truly is contagious