postr/StutterJune 12, 2019

I can't make friends

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I can't make friends Hi I'm 16 a year old guy and I can't make any friends.(I'm on moble so sorry for any formatting, spelling, or grammar mistakes I missed) I have stuttered my entire life and I've never really been able to make any close friends. When I was little my dad taught me that if I take flack about my stutter from anyone I'd end up taking it from everyone. This has lead me to be extremely confrontational at any jab or joke about my stutter. That is the only time I really get angry. I have dealt with this for so long that I just fly off the handle everytime. The closest person I have to a friend has said if she didn't know me she'd be afraid of me. Most of my peers won't talk to me unless they have to. I sit alone during lunch because I don't want to make my peers uncomfortable. For this same reason I really don't speak to anyone anymore. I want to make friends but I can't let the jokes slide. I've tried calmly asking someone to stop but they just laughed harder. Now I have a bit of a reputation and I just can't hack it anymore. Is there a way to get over this and show people that I'm not that bad?

Themes

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Stigma & BullyingFrustration & AngerFriendships & BelongingLoneliness & Isolation

Codes (2)

emotional_stateperceived_judgment