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Looking for your thoughts I've been doing quite well for the past couple years but something my sister posted online has made me start to think about things. She posted something about how she gets called lazy, selfish, etc by her dad (my stepdad) and it made me question why my stutter is peak worst with him. In his defence, he met my mum at 24, the same age as me now, not having any experience with kids. I was 4 and he was quick to act as a father figure which I respect. He stopped me from sleeping in my mums bed which is fair enough, but at a young age, it felt like he was tearing me apart from my mum. Whenever I did something wrong, he would give me the silent treatment. This is where Im wondering if this could be linked to my stutter... I used to be too afraid to verbally say sorry to him, so I would write it on paper and slide it under the door for him to see. I'd then wait until he came out and spoke to me to feel at ease again. My mum wouldn't give the silent treatment, she'd always tell him to stop acting that way so I wonder if that also had a subconscious impact. Me and my stepdad didnt really get on, I dont remember much now but my friends sometimes ask how he's getting on and tell me that I always used to say how I didnt like him. to be honest, Ive completely blacked out the memories between the ages of 11 - 15. I think that was also due to school, having no friends, etc. Anyways, fast forward to now, I dont really see my family much. Ive never had a bond with my mum since my stepdad appeared. Whenever i do see them, i just sit in silence unless im asked a question because its just too tiring to try chat. The closest person in my family is my gran, we get on well and Im actually able to speak to her stutter free. Im wondering if anyone here could make potential connections between childhood trauma and adult behaviours. Feel free to leave your stories too.