commentr/StutterJanuary 3, 2018

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Firstly I would like to say you're never alone in this world there too many people for any one person to ever be alone. For example all of us here replying, we're with you. :) Ive had a stutter all my life, luckily my mother picked up on it at an early age and got me into the speech research team at Oxford medical university to help me learn techniques that I use every single time I engage in conversation. I've worked in high end luxury retail brands like Burberry and Gucci while I was living in London and Bicester. You can imagine the pressure of stuttering in front of that particular clientele for those companies. However learning to cope in such a dynamic environment where selling is my job built my confidence. I had wonderful work colleagues and managers who I think to this day don't actually know I stutter. But I still had to cope with the feeling of my throat clenching when selling overly expensive garments. I find it Ironic how I'm in an office job now I'm not talking as much but the managers have not made direct comments about my stutter but finishing my words on more than one occasion has been frustrating (I'm sure we've all been through that). Like you this had indeed knocked my confidence at the age of 25. I'll admit for the first time in my working life I'm struggling to find confidence in my management team about who I am but that doesn't stop me from doing my job and socialising with my colleagues who do understand. Maybe its time for me to look else where. I dont know what context your life is. I'm a single child to a single mother she's my whole world no matter how bad things have ever become she's always been understanding with my stutter and dyslexia. Both of which have knocked my self esteem my entire life but she's always been there. Im sure your family supports you and loves you just as much if not more. I have 3 friends who I truly call brothers, one I consider the older brother I never had. Even with over 400+ "friends" on facebook. People come and go but the ones who accept you for everything you are and how you both enrich each others lives are the ones you will make never feel that you have no friends because they will always be enough. Those people will come if not already in your life in some capacity. Relationships... “Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay.” -Will Smith I hope my experience help give context. Don't hesitate to drop a message. Im new to this reddit too, to help me gauge my stutter so that I can feel more confident. We're all here because we have something in common it just effects us differently but hopefully we all have the same outcome to be more comfortable with our stutters and ourselves.

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Community & SupportSchool & WorkSocial & Relationships

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Validation & EmpathyEmployment & CareerDating & RomanceFriendships & BelongingFamily Support & Conflict