Phone calls are really hard on me also, and just general socialization. Social people with no problems talking tell me about their life problems, but boy, what I would do to be them instead. Each year I have to call and update my info, even if it's all right, I still have to go through the whole process. I'm a nervous wreck and usually get really mad because I am forced to make that call. In the end though, I am usually calm, but the build up to the conversation has my anxiety through the roof. Having a person on the other end with a soft spoken, easy listening voice helps calm me down. I posted in one of the top threads in askreddit in reply to somebody saying they hate talking about themselves. [if you want to read it](http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/27wjrx/what_is_your_1_tip_for_becoming_more_likeable/ci5gr8n)