What relaxes you?

What relaxes you? Us stutterers have it pretty hard and being approached by a stranger or even anybody can instantly make you tense up and alert almost like a ‘okay here we go’ this happens to us all even you don’t realise it or its just habit. Whats one phrase or sentence(s) that a stranger or someone you don’t know that well could say to you that would instantly relax you? While it’s only happened twice someone once said ‘Oh i don’t mind your stutter my _____ has one too!’ I would love to know what you guys say :)