Father of toddler with severe stutter, seeking advice
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Father of toddler with severe stutter, seeking advice Hi folks! Looking for a bit of advice on a hypothetical situation that hasn't happened yet, but most assuredly will at some point. For some background, I started to notice my daughter stuttering a bit this past summer. She was just over two years old at the time, but she'd been a very advanced speaker for a while by that point - tons of words, great grammar, very expressive. The initial signs were subtle, mostly she would elongate the first consonant sound in a sentence. A very close friend of mine stutters, a guy I've known for many years since we were teenagers, and I recognized pretty quickly that what my daughter was starting to do was almost exactly what my buddy would do disfluency-wise. Things cascaded from there with more mid-sentence stutters, blocks that lasted as long as 10 seconds, facial straining, all of it. We found a fantastic speech therapist who diagnosed her with severe disfluency. We've gotten our family and her wonderful, wonderful daycare/preschool teachers on board with all the directives (don't tell her to slow down, don't finish her sentences, etc). Everyone has been great. My wife is a MASSIVE Emily Blunt fangirl, and we've watched many AIS speeches/interviews/etc. that have really put us at ease and helped us to fully accept our daughter's stutter as a part of her like any other. Brown hair, green eyes, stutter. We're only now starting to ask her to identify "smooth" vs. "bumpy" words, the first step in leading her toward recognizing fluent vs. disfluent speech. And I'm not so much worried about her realizing that she stutters while others don't. That's an important step, and a step that I feel we have the ability to guide her through. What keeps me up at night is what the actual hell I'm going to do the first time a kid makes her feel self-conscious. It breaks my heart just thinking about what it could do to her spirit. She's a spitfire, she's insanely social, she's got so much personality and she's just as out there in the world as a toddler can be right now. Her classmates have been with her since they were newborns and they're all incredibly close... I'm not worried about them. It's the rest of the world. I saw how kids who stuttered were treated. I saw how my friend was treated and what that did to him emotionally. I mean he's out there living his best life, he's a successful and happy man... but he went through some shit. Some real shit. I'm sure I don't have to tell you guys. So what do you say to a 3 or 4 year old when this happens? I'm terrified of not being able to comfort her, or reassure her that there's nothing wrong with her. I feel like I just needed advice from people who have been there. There are articles out there to read, sure, but it's not the same. Anyway, pretty heavy stuff I know. But it's been weighing on my mind quite a bit. She's starting preschool tomorrow... with her friends, yes, but I don't know. The older she gets the more I worry. Sorry for the novel! Thanks guys.