commentr/StutterNovember 1, 2022

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>You said: "What happens if you keep the thoughts and feelings from your anxiety... (Moving my tongue automatically and avoiding anxieties)" "trying to empty my mind still doesn't prevent the subconscious reaction to events" I didn't mean to avoid anxiety. In fact, I suggest to never avoid anxiety in order to become a non-stutterer. I tried to point out that stutterers can learn to 'choose' for moving their tongue (and mouth) in spite of having anticipatory anxiety in their mind. Here you don't ignore or distract yourself from the anticipatory anxiety. You just let the thoughts be in your mind, don't touch it, don't change or remove it, don't control it, let it be there and choose to move your tongue (or mouth) during a speech block (or always during speech). I refer to the top level approach (of a stutter cycle), that I return to later in the last paragraph of this message. So, I suggest to never 'empty your mind' or 'remove anxiety'. Because then you don't learn from it, i.e. you don't learn to become tolerant against it or learn that the anticipatory anxiety is not real (it's just a hardwired thought without meaning or judgement) and that your instinct didn't put this thought in your mind right now for a specific goal or reason. ​ >"I can't readily change why I blame my tongue for not moving" \--> In my opinion, the way to improve (or remove) stuttering is by differentiating your thoughts and feelings, i.e. check which of them are hardwired (aka you don't have control over). You noticed that you cannot change the reason why you blame anxiety that leads to stop moving your tongue (ending in a block). This means that you now have concluded that this reason is hardwired. This has a positive advantage because now we can deal with this thought using psychological tools that is effective for 'hardwired thoughts'. You can find out many different strategies to apply on hardwired thought from a psychiatrist or google search, for example: passively observing the raw experience (and its discomfort) of this hardwired thought (without reacting to it, so learning to stop overthinking and doing fight or flight response whenever you think of this hardwired thought) in order to become tolerant against it, disconfirm expectancy and reduce your attachment to it by making it less real in your mind which you can do by making this hardwired thought less fearful, true and your true intentions (in your mind).

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

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Anticipating StutteringOverthinking & MonitoringMindset shiftAcceptance & Pride