They may be mad because they know how great of a person you are and aren’t showing it to potential partners.  At the end of the day, you’re going to have to push past this wall you have built and put yourself out there. You can date, you choose not to, and you may be rejected for your stutter or reasons outside of it. You can’t control the results, only how you present yourself and react to whatever answer you get.  You have the ultimate say so in how your dating life goes. You don’t have to necessarily cold approach because I know how triggering/jarring that is. Try hobbies as you said earlier or online. Build rapport through common interests first, then see where that goes.