commentr/StutterDecember 30, 2025

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I can tell you, stuttering itself is not a problem for girls. They won't reject you because of your stutter. It can even be cute. But side effects that stuttering causes and your inability to express yourself, to be your true self, make things extremely difficult. I miss so many opportunities (to make someone laugh, to say something impressive, etc.), because many things I want to say, I just don't. Sometimes I don't even start because I know it will be impossible, sometimes I start but get stuck at beginning. Sometimes I start but end up changing sentence so much while talking that it becomes something very different than what I wanted. Also, I developed many unhealthy behaviors which are present even when I am not stuttering (in texting for example). I don't even know what these behaviors are, because I got used so much being fake, that I don't even know what part of me is real me. And all these things people don't see. And, in the end, love comes down to luck pretty much (even for non stutterers). Many things outside your control need to be on your side. So, yeah, it is possible to get a girlfriend. She just needs you to like you because of something. It can be your look, your hardworking skills, your status, your money, your healthy oriented lifestyle, your charisma, your sense of humor etc. Problem is that stuttering makes "being liked" in this verbal things very difficult. So I would recommend you to max out everything else. Be extremely healthy. Dress very well. Go to sick barber and get a sick haircut every 2 weeks. Be extremely hardworking. Hit the gym, get in shape.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHelplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. MaskingDating & Romance