"It becomes accepted that we consciously anticipate each time we'll have to talk. " I notice you are applying the definition 'fear' and 'anticipation'. Fear: In my opinion, choosing between blue or red, or choosing between one culture/habit or another culture/habit does not by definition indicate that it's because of fear. In the same way our thinking patterns are so normal for us that we do it out of logic or culture (we don't know any better). Stating or discussing whether it's about fear or not is meaningless in my opinion. Anticipation: We choose for the thinking pattern (and these [compulsive responses](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1WAdyTN__wCGuDqHa5ygUuTxZDjmN5A5L/view?usp=sharing)) because of anticipation and [justification](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NBtPdgb9GoxCEZ7mC9W3gYqDsiGJxKoZ/view?usp=sharing). You could argue that anticipation is a part of the broader definition 'justification'. Argument: we choose compulsion because we justify 'anticipation'.