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Dating With A Stutter I (M 23) don’t know if this belongs here or not, but what the hell. I have had a stutter for around a year now, it started around the time of a really rough break up and I’ve been getting better through self help books at the start, and more recently a support group. The support group is great, really nice people who all sound like a broken record just like me. But last week at our meeting one of the girls asks if I was seeing anyone, and set up a blind date for me. I was fine with it, a little nervous, but I figured that if this girl is already friends with a stutterer than I don’t really have anything to worry about. So Saturday I pick my date up at her apartment. She’s a really pretty girl, like the perfect body type and everything so I’m getting a little nervous. On the way to the restaurant, I start my “I’m sorry if you don’t understand what I’m saying sometimes” speech, but she interrupts me and says I don’t have to be sorry, laughs it off. As far as the date itself, it went really well, we talked for like three and a half hours, so needless to say, we hit it off. I had a hard time as usual ordering, but my date didn’t seem to notice or at least didn’t make anything of it. As I said, the date went well. That’s not why I’m writing this. I driver her home and walk her up to her door, and I feel brave so I kiss her. I pull away, and she asks if I wanted to come inside for a drink or something. I say sure, without thinking what that actually means. Anyway, a few minutes later, we’re making out on her couch and she’s getting a little handsy (granted, so was I). I stop her and explain I really enjoyed our date and don’t want to go this fast. I don’t feel comfortable with sex on the first date, just my opinion. She is a little taken a back and says I’m calling her a slut, which I really wasn’t. Before I can defend myself, she tells me I should leave, so I do. She’s since texted and called apologizing for her actions, but I felt really weird about the whole thing. It was the first date I’ve been on where my date wasn’t really freaked out by my stutter and I think I fucked it up. Any idea how to handle this situation?