You're 1000% right. Anyone reading this and thinking the OP is insensitive completely misses the point and doesn't believe in themselves, which ironically is part of the point (and I'm guilty of this too so I'm not attacking anyone bruh). Before graduating college, my stutter didn't get in the way of much - social life, relationships, etc. After college?? Man I've allowed it to hold me back in every facet of life. I don't even wanna get into it lol Part of what has helped me shift my attitude though is seeing some of the posts in this subreddit. My immediate reaction to some of these posts is to roll my eyes at the self-pity, but then I realize I have adopted the exact same self-sabotaging attitudes that the OP is talking about. I don't wanna think like this, and neither should any of us. ALL of us know how much of a struggle it is, why else would we be here? The question what are we gonna do about it? More importantly, how do we CHOOSE to see ourselves? Of course venting is necessary, but we're all way more capable than we think we are. Accepting that you have a bad attitude about it lowkey gives you power bro. Like fuck that, I'm not going to ALLOW my stutter to hold me back from anything. It's easier said than done and it can be a 24/7 effort, but it is a CHOICE at the end of the day.