commentr/StutterNovember 22, 2024

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My brother and I both stutter. When my brothers teacher had made some not so nice comments regarding my brothers reading out loud, he came home in tears and told my mother. My mother called our speech therapist and the speech therapist without saying anything else, called the school and set up a time and day where he could come in and talk to the class about speech impediments. The teacher was educated that day, and my brother never had a problem with her after that, and the students in the class seemed to grasp my brother’s impediment more. Of course he still had bullies, but he also had some people open up a bit more to him and they became friends. I was two grades below my brother and had all the same teachers he did, so teachers were educated on my speech because of him and I didn’t have the same issues that he did with teachers. I’ve come to learn that teachers really don’t know anything about stuttering. I believe my brother was in the 2nd or 3rd grade when this happened. It helped a lot. My brother is an extrovert and growing up, he developed a sense of humor to cope with being bullied and he in turn would use the sense of humor to defend himself against bullies. Eventually everyone stopped making fun of him because he would hit them back with something out of pocket to humiliate them. Basically giving them a taste of their own medicine, hahah! As I say this I want to make sure I say that I’m not encouraging bullying back, but just stating that worked for my brother when he was in school. I unfortunately was not like that. I was shy and quiet, but I didn’t find it too difficult to find friends who accepted me. I was bullied every year for it of course, but I learned to ignore them and just hang with the friends who would help defend me. I have a mild stutter, and my brothers stutter is severe and he has facial tics with his. I’m not sure what level your daughter’s speech is at, but I recommend continuing to lift her up and boost her confidence. Try to get her involved in as many activities as you can. I struggled making friends in school because I went to a big school and was quiet. So I ended up finding most of my friends when I started volleyball and basketball as a kid. She will meet more kids and eventually will find friends who accept her. Also, if you haven’t already, you should really enroll her in speech therapy. A speech therapist will teach her some tips and tricks of things to do, and things not to do. Depending on the location too, a lot of speech therapy have a stuttering support group where kids can meet other kids with stutters. I think that helps. Having my brother stutter too always made me feel a lot better and made me feel not so alone. Sorry this was a lot to read, but you’re welcome to ask me any questions!! I’m 26 now and married with a good group of friends. My brother with the severe stutter is 28 years old, married, having kids, and also has a great group of friends.

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Parent & CaregiverIdentity & DisabilityCommunity & Support

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School/Clinical AdvocacyStigma & BullyingPersonal Stories