postr/StutterOctober 18, 2025

How much has your stutter impacted your social skills?

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How much has your stutter impacted your social skills? I wonder if more people can relate, but often when people talk to me my mind goes blank like i don't know what say back which usually leads to me keeping it short and ending the conversation rather quickly making it hard to have deep conversations, get to know people etc. Another issue i have is that the other day I was chatting with my coworkers at work someone made a joke, and I laughed but couldn’t think of anything to say. Then like a minute later, I came up with a perfect comeback in my mind which i could have said at that time. I noticed most of the people i talk with don't have problems like that. It's like my brain is not spontaneous. Is this all because i mostly used to avoid talking to hide the fact that i stutter in highschool? No matter how many times i try talking now i just can't keep conversations going. At work, most of my coworkers see me as the quiet guy, which means I often have to initiate conversations myself since they probably assume I’d prefer not to talk. I’m grateful that I still have my high school friends who know about my stutter, but even around them, I sometimes feel like I can’t fully express my true self because I still find myself trying to hide it, almost automatically now by not saying something or using a synonym or just pretend i forgot what i wanted to say, you know 😂 socializing is hard man 🤧

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Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & WorkSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionSchool & Academic LifeFriendships & Belonging