There are so many things to unpack here. 1. Your discomfort with her speech: that doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you an unaccepting person at this time. Can you change, yes. should you change, yes. But if you cant, thats okay too, in which case you should absolutely not waste this young ladies life and time. 2. Her speech: People who stutter tend to stutter at their worst when they are nervous or in a new situation or when talking to new people, especially under this much pressure. Her stutter may be as bad as you thought, but it may also be much milder than on your date. Maybe its the best she can do because she is trying so hard to please you and your family and has worked for months to be ready for your arranged date. After you get to know her, it may be much worse or much milder or even non-existent. Know this now, if thats a deal breaker, then again, dont waste her time. 3. She is more than her speech: Regardless if this is her best or her worst speech days, she is much more than her speech. before you miss out on a gift from the cosmos, I would look at her for who she is beyond her speech. I would take a person who stutters any day of the week over a woman who will hurt you, hurt your children, or hurt your family. Is she kind, compassionate, trusting, loving, committed, intelligent, forgiving, prudent, wise, pious, accepting....? I could go on forever. these are far more important qualities. 4. Depending on your lifestyle: having a stutter *can* be very isolating especially in certain cultures. You say you are an extrovert etc. if you require a wife who is very open, very extroverted, and you need that sort of person for you to be happy, then its absolutely ok to not accept the arrangement. Compatibility is key to a long and successful partnership. I am a real extrovert but my stutter is really mild and I have perfect control of it 95% of the time. But I had a friend who was an very shy stutterer and it was exhausting tbh. Our friendship lasted all of 1 year because before I knew it, I was becoming her mother, making her phone calls, couldn't bring friends over coz she was too shy, could never go to parties with other people, hated groups of people, wouldn't order in a restaurant.... like this girl was not okay at all and I just became her crutch. I hate how it ended but I think the stutter consumed her completely and somehow made my stutter worse too. 5. Culture and family: if you come from a culture family where disability is not supported well- then do her a favor and bail. My experience: If you scroll down far enough, you'll see a post in which my Sikh friend had a rishta (arranged marriage) and married a girl with a severe stutter. He was deployed on a rig when he married her so she had to live with his parents in India until he could get everything sorted. Bruh, they nearly destroyed her. His mother especially really hated her and said she had ruined the family name by bringing a stutter into their house. IDK how they didn't know this before taking her rishta- I guess no one talked to her except him. Anyway, just 4 Months ago, she finally got her visa and came to America. when she first came, I was so worried. She just seemed **dead** inside and I even recommended he take her to counseling. But his love and acceptance was enough to awaken her and she is doing very welll. She is taking English classes and her speech improves every day because he just accepts her as she is. He is helping her get integrated into American society and she is just so happy with their small life and small house. he is so proud of her for doing the simplest things like going to the store on her own etc. And I think she is equally proud of herself. He once cried when he told me how little respect and love and attention she expects from him because she has been bullied and abused all her life from when she was a child. He tries extra hard to really accept her and love her, stutter and all. On the bad side I think he is becoming too protective of her and thats also a problem. She still requires a lot of hand holding but at least she's happy- happier I think than she has ever been. He's a really exceptional person so I am sure he will figure out the best way to help her and love her. She is a very lucky girl and he is a very lucky man. BTW, he told me, she talks non-stop to him stutter and all! He says its like having a radio on all the time in the house, but he is a quiet stoic strong sort of guy and he loves listening to her. I think it calms him. Sorry for the long post, but nuance is necessary since there is life at stake, 2 lives actually. May you make the best decision for your future. here is their post from 10 Months ago.. [https://www.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/a5b9gl/would\_you\_marry\_a\_girl\_who\_had\_a\_profound\_stutter/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/a5b9gl/would_you_marry_a_girl_who_had_a_profound_stutter/)