🗣 The ONLY 2 reasons you get stuck in a stuttering state. (Part 1 of 2)

🗣 The ONLY 2 reasons you get stuck in a stuttering state. (Part 1 of 2) I'm going to quickly share some psychology backed information of why we get stuck inside of a stuttering state.  First of all, a stuttering state is a feeling you enter where every word you say is a struggle. You not only feel extremely stifled and stuck in your head about your speech, but your physical movements also become fully thought out and scripted. 🚫 You absolutely and entirely enter into a version of yourself that is in a constant fight or flight mode. 🦅 Nothing you say or do comes from an authentic part of you. Everything you say or do is to avoid judgement and prove yourself/please others. Most likely, these types of stuttering states are most common for you inside of loud, busy, social environments (around new people). Basically any environment where you feel it is highly likely to be perceived in a negative light if you stutter, or do something stupid (stuttering and doing something stupid are not correlated).  So… Let's get into it. The only 2 reasons you get stuck in a stuttering state is when you are holding onto 2 beliefs.  The first belief is: Getting judgement from others in this environment is unsafe. 😶 You believe that if you were to get judged here and now, you wouldn't be okay, you would be in danger.  Now logically we know that is untrue. The worst case scenario is we stutter, get a weird look, maybe get laughed at or mocked, but then go back to everyday life.  🐒 Our monkey brain thinks differently.  We have been engrained to believe that we must avoid standing out socially in a way that could bring about negative judgement.  Back in our tribal days, if our tribe didn’t approve of us, we would get kicked out of the group, we would die. We wouldn't be able to gather enough resources and safety to defend ourselves.  Our brain is still wired the same way. We may not logically believe that we are going to die if we get judged, but our subconscious does. 90% of our thoughts are subconscious (go unnoticed but still have an emotional impact on us).   This is why we feel extremely stifled and get put into that stuttering state.  We start second guessing every single move we make.  We start navigating this world to only get the thumbs up and approval from everyone around us. Again, this is even if you don't consciously think “I must get approval, I must make them like me”. When you are in this stuttering state, your emotional state, and actions are governed by your underlying beliefs that are often subconscious and unseen.  Nothing we say or do comes from an authentic spot inside of us.. How can it, we are trying not to die and we believe who we truly are is not valid in this interaction right now.  Plus we also play a trick on ourselves thinking that if we show our “front” (the fake version of us) and we get rejected, we won't be excluded or isolated, but the fake version of ourselves will. Thus leading us to feel so disconnected from everyone we are speaking to because we are unable to express ourselves in a vulnerable way (vulnerability being the #1 trait for genuine connection).  This also leads to diluting our personality, taking away our humor, and making us laugh at things we wouldn't normally laugh at, and being held back when we would normally laugh without thought.  It's like a completely different version of yourself you turn into. I know this all too well. This is the way I lived for all of my life up to about 4 years ago.  This is the first belief we hold onto that puts us into this stuttering state. Will post in a couple days the 2nd belief that puts us into these states.  🤔 If you have any questions in the meantime, please never hesitate to reach out.  See you soon. ✌