Amazing post! I hope to read more posts of you in the future! I feel you, we're so on the same wavelength about "*I forgive myself for not being fluent*". I think we should distinguish "actively forgiving oneself" and "a chronic mindset that you don't care about stutters". Take for example, if people who stutter are too tired, to actively manage their stuttering, then in situation (A) actively attempting to forgive yourself, becomes taxing and then it may result in stopping with stress management - resulting in more stuttering. Whereas, in situation (B) if we are too tired, then it wouldn't affect the "learned" mindset of not caring about stuttering that doesn't rely on "active intervention" to manage stress - which doesn't result in more stuttering. If one doesn't care, then one doesn't need to "forgive oneself" anymore. That's just one way to see it, though. This is just how I personally understand it. The cool thing is, we all have different perspectives, and that's where the real learning happens. We can learn so much from each other's unique points of view!