i know ive had days where it was simply easier to pretend i had a very sore throat and write everything down. yes, yes, i know we are 'supposed' to power through it and be comfortable with ourselves but sometimes we just need a day (or week or month) off and take the easy way out and just avoid talking. we all have days like that and they suck. ... I have typed out and deleted 3 or 4 different lines saying basically "dont worry, it's not that big of a deal" but that's wrong, it is a big deal. im sure you know all the links to all the support sites and therapy info so i will just leave you with this: we have been there, we have experienced the same helplessness and embarrassment, and we have all been brought to tears at one point or another over a particularly bad incident, and we have grown stronger because of it and so will you.