How to Stop Stuttering: This is How I've stopped stuttering

How to Stop Stuttering: This is How I've stopped stuttering I think knowing a little back story to my history will help you understand my thought process , so here goes. My Dad, has a very intense stuttering issue, but because I've only know him like that, its not weird to me, I've always usually just waited for him to get what he's trying to say out his mouth. I'd would rate the intensity of his stuttering intensity at a 9/10, whereby he will stutter on just about every other word, and sometimes stutter on just one word for a good 4 seconds, and even have to pause and start over to get the word out . Guess what, I use to also have a stuttering problem, so I'm not sure if its genetic, though I have my doubts and reasons why. I'd rate my stuttering problem at 6.1 out of 10, where by I could feign not having a stutter for a small while, or just simply communicate rarely , but enough to not be totally quiet. Nonetheless , it has played a part in me being shy, quiet, and lacking confidence at times. One thing to know about my father is that he has very real strong social communication behavior issues, anti social and the like, he literally talks to no one, except my mother and I, maybe due to growing up with his stuttering problem. If you have social anxiety now consider maybe this, it could just be your stutter making you anxious about being social, furthermore, for anyone who's been teased about their stuttering , speaking can be a traumatic experience conjured with all types of anxiety, that makes you afraid of social situations all together. Anyway, back to stuttering and me, and how to rid this from you completely. Here's my advice and I have strong faith it will work for you if you have that patience, perseverance and belief that you can do it. I use to avoid talking a lot because of my stutter, and like my dad I think I developed being very anti social from a very young age, but just naturally it could be supposed, I was always in my room playing with toys by myself or drawing for hours on end. What is Stuttering? Stuttering is like this, its like your brain is able to somehow think faster than your words can articulate them. Ponder on that.. When you have lets say a whole sentence you can think of in the span of of a half second, but are only humanly possible able for us to say one word at a time, then speech becomes bogged down almost like a computer trying to multitask multiple programs and applications, and as a result, you stutter. Maybe because like myself I don't know, you've spent a lot of time alone by yourself, you've learned to think without speaking, or rather, understand things without having to think. You need to grasp this point, because we often think our words mean we are thinking, but our words are rather just a very shitty vehicle or tool used to express feelings, emotions, scent, sounds, amazing things that have really no numeration of adjectives that can accurately described what they are in their whole. So, like I said, maybe because like myself, you've spent a lot of time alone growing up, you've learned to think without speaking, because of course, talking to yourself alone growing up would be weird. But maybe you've learned to internalize thoughts, and thinking. If you ever consider yourself someone very good at conceptual thinking, this may be a sign that what I'm saying is right. Words in themselves are very weak, most of our thoughts or most things, cannot truly articulated, and even when they can, they're are a hundreds or ways of articulating theses things. Are you someone who's always been very creative?? Bingo!!(If I'm right about that too). Creative thinking tends to be able to think of one subject in many a bunch of different ways, but this is not so good when you're trying to speak and need 1 single way to communicate a message. I see stuttering as a sign of intelligence. My dad is an Insaneeee talented artist, with no formal training, and never showed me his work until i was about 14 years old. I am also an artist in a sense, I use to be able to draw very well as a child, but stopped. I one day was with friends who use to record music in my buddies basement, and one day at like 16 years old I started rapping and it was like the easiest thing for me to make up these long lines or phrases in the span of a second, and even rhyme them. You'll find that your stuttering is FUcking non existent when you sing, or rap songs, even if you make up your own. But if you want to not stutter, you have to accept the slow processing shit of the world and so many people around you who can only understand the world through literally descriptions and through structure and rules, and cannot comprehend abstract or conceptual ideas, you have to accept this about the world of "talking", and from that, take your time, and be patient with the utter slowness of verbal communication. Don't you find when you're stuttering its like you're almost getting excited or worked up to get the word out, almost like " Hurry up mouth, move , get these damns words out , youre so fucking slow!!!!". This is whats happening when you stutter, because you're trying to keep up with your minds speed, you try so hard that you tumble over words. To kill the stutter, try this next conversation you have a a chance, try with your family or mom or anyone close if youre not comfortable, try to: relax, calm yourself, remember to breath, an try to say one word at a time and also, don't fucking rush to say the word, people who stutter tend to say words super frantically fast, so slow these processes down. Here's an example of doing that : " Hey, mom! So.. I was at school today.... and I was thinking listening , to these teacher talk.. She was so rude. Honestly, you wouldn't believe it!" . do that, as oppose to this, which is what your stuttering mind : " Hey mom So I was at school today and I was thinking listening to these teacher talk she was so rude honestly you wouldn't believe it!". Because your stuttering mind can actually understand that entire sentence in a fraction of the time that it takes to even physically verbalize it, you try to communicate the story at that speed, and you end up stuttering. This shows how weak language is altogether. You could quiet easily understand that story very quickly in your head. Anxiety that you will stutter, will in fact also make you stutter, it sucks. Just imagine, you go to a restaurant and someone ask what you want to order, you look at the picture of the steak, and maybe think about it, then once you decide you look at the waiter and try to say steak , but you can't, its st' st' st' st' going through your mind, but not being said. Instead you rub your chin and pretend as if you're still thinking, while in truth the words are just sitting stubbornly on the cusp of your lips refusing to leave your mouth. At this point the waiter looks at you awkward but wondering if you're ignoring him. Your friends are sitting at the table wondering, " when is he going to respond to the waiter" , they all put their menu's down and look at you while you're still there rubbing your chin looking down all contemplatively at your menu, staring almost blindly into space which is the menu. All this while about 4 seconds have passed, but you it feels liked an eternity. All this pressure from the situation further puts the words back in your mouth, and unable to speak , the waiter ask, " do you want me to come back and give you time to think?", and reply with a nod of the head, as the sweat under your armpits just started to get uncomfortably sweaty. This now, 10 seconds have passed, but you the stutterer that was world war 4, and no ones else knew. Pressure of speaking and worrying you will stutter, will make trying not to stutter IMPOSSIBLE. You need to be able to relax in social situations, for the sake of your improvement in getting rid of this problem, as counter intuitive as that sounds. Try what I'm suggesting, and consider what I've said, slowing your speech down, and trying to relax in general. At first the trying to slow down speech thing it will be tedious and feel fucking retarded, but you'll start noticing the speed at which you verbalize starts sounding on par with the speed that others around you speak do. It will feel comical. You'll start realizing that all this time you were just trying to talk, you were actually trying to do it like 2x as fast as everybody who didn't stutter around you. Be Strong! You'll notice benefits fast, don't judge yourself, judging just makes you have more pressure, and be patient, please, be patient, its so important, you can do this, trust me, its not a disease. Eventually after doing this tedious forced dance for long time, you'll be able to dial your effort way down and just speak normally without trying to force yourself splice up a whole sentence. What you're doing, is effectively retraining your speech pattern. I know you feel this almost release or joy when youre successfully able to get a million words out of your mouth in a few seconds, but stop this behavior, slow down, and one day you'll be happy be able to speak to someone for a long time and not stutter once. You'll leave the conversation feeling like you won the lottery, while the other person will say " bye , nice talking" and think nothing of it. As mentioned. I know you probably stutter more , or less depending on who you're talking to or the situation, or stress level. When you feel that flight or fright, calm yourself down, center yourself, and breath, taking your time with your words. Another thing that helped me, take role models, watch interviews with celebs you admire, people who you think speak well, and model yourself after them, pay attention to their cadence , the tone, the pacing, the word choice etc. You'll start being able to notice very quickly who is very good at speaking and who isn't , and naturally will be able to understand those who are, and be drawn to those celebs who speak well. Also, try improving your vocabulary a bit, because you have this fast moving mind, you'd benefit from knowing a few more words. Why? Well, because your mind can handle the feet of reaching in a split second to choose between 10 different fucking words, and put that out in verbal. which is amazing if you think about it. It shows intelligence beyond the norm. If you can slow your speaking, know more words, and at the same time be able to have this high powered thought processing ability , the skies will be the l' l' l' l' ..... LIMIT!!. Good luck. You can do it. Be Patient.