commentr/StutterSeptember 8, 2020

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Non stutterer. Only a very small part of people actually want to harm you Bc they are assholes. From my experience, everyone has something that they get bullied for, with jokes and shit. And everyone has something that, when joked about, will hurt them much because they are insecure about that thing. Your situation happens when these 2 things are the same. The first thing is to ask yourself: why does it hurt you if they joke about your stutter? When you have figured it out, you will have an easier time not having a breakdown upon it being mentioned. Secong thing is that people are often protective. Whenever you have someones true attention, explain your situation to them. They will understand and try to advise or even protect you. Third thing. People are curious about things they dont understand. They make jokes about it because it is rare, just like they would make jokes about a black kid in my school. If there was one. But we do not want to hurt you, we are joking around. You have to accept that. You cant ask us to stop, from personal experience, well do it even more. You will have to add a self burn or smth so that it will seem like you find your stutter or whatever else funny too. This will land you a place at our table. If you let people ask you stupid questions then answer them, you can get them off of you. Fourth and last thing. Stuttering is rare. Use this rarity. Go out and talk. It can grab peoples attention, and keeping attention is generally easier than getting it. So go out in front of the class and talk. Go out to the stage. What could happen? They cant throw tomatoes at you. Whoever might insult you, you have the moral high ground and you have the backing of the people, Bc you were Brave enough to go out there. There is no reason to fear the stage. You are just talking to slightly more people than usual. Thats it. Hope I helped. Sorry for long text.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAcceptance & PrideStigma & Bullying

Codes (2)

public_speakingperceived_judgment