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1: Porn use has no specific bearing on stutter in the scientific consensus, no. 2: I didn't link to sources, I linked to Wikipedia, which has sources for you (notice the word "aggregated" up there). 3: You're making connections yourself. The point of science is always concrete! You cannot mix and match as you like. Science _results_ are public, but science _simpliciter_ is not. "We're all scientists", said the poet. But it took a scientist to spell out the differences... and even though I do fancy the poetics of it, I do not fancy the reckless individualism inherent in its practical application. That's just... a recipe for "fake news" (to use a hip modern term). Eek, I say. Eek! - --- - Oh, stutter therapy - as with all therapy - actually by definition is never quite the same. In fact, depending on the theoretical framework of the therapist you visited back then, you may be faced with something radically different upon a new visit. As far as I'm aware, with children, it's actually limited what you can work with. Kids don't always have the necessary "cognitive setup" to perform the maneuvers required, so it's simplified and less demanding. - I was in speech therapy when I was a kid, and I just remember breathing exercises. It certainly stuck with me, because I breathe that way today (incidentally, there's a fun overlap with breathing in singing, but that's kinda besides the point). This was perhaps the extent of "neuromuscular plasticity", so to say. Later on - early twenties, I think - I went back, because the stutter was starting to wear me out. However, together with the therapist, we concluded that because my perspective on stuttering and my reflections on it were already rather "matured", she couldn't really supply me with any novel insights. We tried some low-level techniques (dealing with e.g. forced/deliberate stuttering and I think also eye contact), but my patience for these wasn't great (although, it's taken me many years to get to a point where eye contact has become something ordinary, so that's a kind of patience, I guess). I instead became reinforced (through our conversations) in the notion that what I want to say is what I'm going to say, despite delays or suggestions/completions from others. It really takes the impact out of the stutter, because it's almost like it's not even happening to me anymore. I mean, it is, but at the same time _it is what it is_ and I don't really need to worry about it. The therapy itself was obviously fine. It often helps talking to someone - a stranger, in many cases - about what's on your mind. This most likely had a greater effect in that particular case, because I was talking with a professional, who was paying attention to the aspects of our conversations that were relevant to analysis and conclusion. I still dealt with a lot of fluctuation in many years, which was sort of the last thing I had to get through. We typically want to know what's going to happen before it happens, and it's hard to keep getting surprised by undesired stutters. So, here, my journey was one of altering my expectation: Instead of expecting no stutter, or a stutter I could handle by pushing through or evading it, I simply arrived at the conclusion: I might stutter at any given moment, but it's just stutter and nothing's going to explode. Perfection is a myth and all I need to pay attention to is the things I want to say. My work today (at an age of 42) is completely filled with communication each and every day. When I think back to my teens, I was always nervous when going into shops, or picking up the phone, or talking to new or less familiar people in general. Such a sad waste of emotion and anticipation! Now, today, I speak more than ever and I stutter less than I ever did. Sometimes I'll block hard for a brief moment, and other times I'll make funny noises in general, but I'm lucky enough to have people around me who just want to hear what I have to say. I would wish the same for anyone else who stutters! It's just that we often can't tell exactly what road might lead us there. I do know, however, that the likelihood increases by working with those people who are educated in our predicament. And simple conversation helps too! We can think differently of ourselves, and others, and suddenly stutter goes from being this overshadowing thing to instead this tiny little thing that sometimes doesn't even matter at all. - I've been on this sub for quite a while now, and it's always nice when someone recognizes that there is a different world available to them, simply by moving mentally to a slightly different spot. It's often necessary to take a look at background assumptions that may or may not be in the awareness of the stutterer, most likely because we spend so much effort trying to keep this thing under control. But that's the thing: If "control" is understood as "no stutter", we're actually trying to work against ourselves. We _are_ stutter (just as much as any language user _is_ language). If we can relax our struggle, we shift the balance of significance, allowing us to focus more on what we actually want to do (instead of running away from what we don't want to do). - Perhaps you understand a little better now why I react with hostility to patterns of thinking that treat stutter like an obstacle to be removed entirely by performing extraneous behavior purported to force the disappearance of said obstacle. We can't force it. We need to be organic. There are no scalpels or magic wands here. We stutter and that's a thing that some people do. And with various sorts of work, we get better at it - but not by running away from it.